The Top 5 Safe & Comfortable Sex Positions For Pregnancy

Being pregnant doesn’t mean that your sex life is a thing of the past. In fact, it can be an exciting time to explore your connection with your partners and new positions that work with your changing body. We’re sharing our top 5 positions for penetrative sex, oral, and clitoral stimulation that are comfortable and safe for pregnancy!

Your sex drive during pregnancy

Your hormones will fluctuate during pregnancy and in turn, that means that your sex drive will change as well. You might find that some pregnancy symptoms like back pain decrease your sex drive and it’s totally normal and ok not to want to have sex at any time, including when you’re pregnant. On the other hand, your changing hormones may also increase your sex drive, and that’s ok too! Talk to your partner and figure out what feels right to you; it may be that you want intimacy but not penetrative sex — keep reading for all of the info you’ll need.

Is it safe to have sex when you’re pregnant?

First things first, is it safe to have sex in all 3 trimesters of pregnancy? Absolutely! If you are having a low-risk pregnancy and are not experiencing complications such as preterm labor or placenta problems, then it is safe to have sex whilst you are pregnant, and having sex or orgasms won’t cause a miscarriage. Your baby is protected by your uterus muscles and amniotic fluid, so having sex cannot hurt your baby. You should avoid sex if you have been told to do so by your doctor or midwife. 

Find out more about safe sex during pregnancy - including if it can kick start labor & when sex should be avoided - here. 

The top 5 safe & comfortable sex positions for pregnancy

Ok, let's dive into some of the best pregnancy-safe sex positions!  Remember,  there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to sex positions, so feel free to experiment and find what works best for you and your partner. Be open to trying new things and communicating your needs and desires with each other – we’re just sharing a couple of ideas you can try… 

1. Spooning

Spooning can be a great option for pregnancy, especially as the belly grows bigger and bigger. To give it a try, lie on your side with your partner behind you, also lying on their side. This position allows for deep penetration while also keeping pressure off the belly. If you’re not looking for penetrative sex, spooning can also offer a great position for clitoral stimulation. 

2. Cowgirl

Cowgirl, or woman-on-top, can be a great option during pregnancy as it allows control over the depth and pace of penetration. In this position, straddle your partner while they lie on their back, and either you can stimulate the clitoris from this position. Lean back to take the extra weight off your belly, and widen your leg stance for deeper penetration. For more shallow penetration, narrow your leg stance or lean forward. 

This position can also be modified to make it more comfortable by using pillows for support.

3. Doggy Style

Doggy style can also be a good option during pregnancy, as it allows for deep penetration without putting pressure on the belly. You’ll be on your hands and knees while your partner penetrates you from behind. Again, using pillows for support can make this position more comfortable.

4. Oral 

Remember that sex doesn't have to be penetrative to be intimate and pleasurable! Other forms of stimulation, like oral sex, can be a great way to connect with your partner & hit the right spot during pregnancy. To get comfortable and avoid lying on your back, sit on a couch or at the top of your bed against the headboard or wall. Lean back slightly and relax while your partner goes down on you. To give your partner oral, you’ll likely find it most comfortable to kneel on top of a pillow and bring their body to you – try having them sit at the edge of the bed or sofa.

5. Mutual masturbation 

Another non-penetrative option is mutual masturbation. Lay down or sit facing your partner. Use your hands or favorite sex toys to pleasure yourselves or each other. 

The takeaway. 

Pregnancy can be a wonderful time for couples to explore new levels of intimacy and connection. By prioritizing safety and comfort, and being open to trying new things, you can keep the spark alive in your sex life during this exciting time. If you find yourself not wanting to have sex, that’s ok too – there are other ways to connect with your partner! 

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